Dealing With Back to School Stress

I'm starting to see all the back-to-school commercials, ads and hear the din of all the activities firing up, like NASCAR engines. School can feel like a race. "Why can't it be summer all year?" Students and parents are trying to catch their breath before the gun goes off and all the frantic … [Read more...]

Less Than Perfect

"We just want her to work up to her potential. She's a gifted student and in honors and AP classes, but she seems to have lost her drive. Seems the more we talk with her, the less she does," said the forty-something dad wearing a crisp, professionally-starched dress shirt and shiny, polished Italian … [Read more...]

You Are Stressin’ Me Out!

It turns out that we really can stress each other out, especially in families. Now we have evidence that supports 'empathic stress', especially if it involves someone we care about. The Journal Psychoneuroendocrinology (say that fast three times!) reported in April 2014 that watching a loved one … [Read more...]

Sick and Tired

“I have a 4.4 GPA. I study during lunch, I'm on the varsity volleyball team, attend youth group weekly and just went on a mission trip with my church; but my dad looks at me and frowns, like I’m lazy and goofing off when I take thirty minutes to video chat with my friends. He doesn’t understand that … [Read more...]

The Strategic Parent – Becoming a Family of High Achievement

Some high performance children and teens drive themselves (and their parents) crazy trying to achieve their idealized version of success. Their obsession with perfection causes them to feel that anything less than perfect is a failure, and the only way to get attention is to be perfect. In this … [Read more...]

Top Ten Ways To Frustrate Your Kids

Barbara called me on her cell phone, "I want my son to see you as soon as possible. How soon can you get him in?" "When is he free?" I asked. "Well, let's see . . .he has soccer at three,  guitar lessons at five; a tutor after dinner; youth group on Wednesdays - wait, I have another call - hang … [Read more...]