No Bullying Month

"I used to get A's and B's, but after those kids teased me and called me names, I started getting D's. They got into my head. I don't even like them. Actually, I don't even know them, so why should I care what they say or think?" asked thirteen year-old Noah. "I used to walk on campus, be happy to … [Read more...]

Common Views Parents Have of Their Kids

It's September, and as parents, we are excited to have our kids go back to school (except for those parents who are first-year preschool parents, and are agonizing and missing their precious little one, but you'll get over it.) You may catch yourself saying, "Your job is to be a student, so make … [Read more...]

What is Coaching?

I'm often asked, "What is coaching?"  I typically respond that my style of coaching is a hybrid between a counselor and a sports coach. I'm trained in educational psychology and have spent years studying how people grow. Here's what I'm discovering: People grow when they have someone encouraging … [Read more...]

The Strategic Parent – Becoming a Family of High Achievement

Some high performance children and teens drive themselves (and their parents) crazy trying to achieve their idealized version of success. Their obsession with perfection causes them to feel that anything less than perfect is a failure, and the only way to get attention is to be perfect. In this … [Read more...]

Handling Hormonal Hurricanes

Research studies in North America are reporting that puberty is coming to children earlier. The teen years have expanded! We are seeing hormonal changes begin in girls as young as eight years old, and in boys as young as nine. These changes occur before you may even notice signs of puberty, like … [Read more...]

The Danger of Raising Nice Kids

What are you aiming for in raising your child? Good grades? Excel at sports? Behave in public and make you proud? Most parents say, "I want my child to be nice." But nice is not enough. It's dangerous to settle for raising nice kids.  'Nice' means pleasant, friendly and well-mannered. Originally, … [Read more...]

Digital Native Parenting

“The high-tech revolution has disrupted much of the basic life-skills learning that in prior generations would have taken place in almost any tight-knit family. Today, nuclear family members may still live under one roof, but they often substitute cyber interactions for traditional social exchanges … [Read more...]

Woodstock and Digital Natives

Forty years ago young people met in a muddy field at Woodstock to get away from their 'square' parents and be cool and groove to 'their' music. The generation gap was huge, with parents considered 'out of it' and not to be trusted. "Don't trust anyone over thirty," was the mantra of the era for … [Read more...]

Always Daddy’s Girl

I remember when my daughter was born. I told my friends, who were visiting at the hospital, "She's a miracle! Isn't she remarkably beautiful?" They smiled and nodded politely. "How amazing she is!" I made it, I mused.  "She is unusually intelligent. I can tell at forty-eight hours," I … [Read more...]