From Scattered to Successful

I recently finished writing a book with Stephen Arterburn: Understanding and Loving a Person With ADD. It will be out this fall. I'm excited about the book because it comes out of years of coaching people with ADD on moving from scattered to successful. Recently, I did a three session class for … [Read more...]

No Bullying Month

"I used to get A's and B's, but after those kids teased me and called me names, I started getting D's. They got into my head. I don't even like them. Actually, I don't even know them, so why should I care what they say or think?" asked thirteen year-old Noah. "I used to walk on campus, be happy to … [Read more...]

Happy Kids?

I always twitch a little when I hear a parent say, “All I want for my child is for him to be happy.” I think I react because I’m not sure if ‘happy’ is coming from a place of positivity and health, or from a darker place of fear and a frantic lifestyle. “I have two children, and all I want for … [Read more...]

The Problem With Raising A Prince

I have to admit it, I have a problem with the prince and princess mentality I see emerging in some families. I enjoy the fairy tales; the Disney franchise that introduces preschoolers to the epic stories through media, merchandise, and theme park experiences; and the ideas of a quest to win the … [Read more...]

Healthy Families – Healthy Businesses

Families, like businesses have a system and a culture. Some look attractive, even successful, but if you look deeper, they actually may be unhealthy. Your family and your work are the two most important organizations in your life. Are yours' healthy? Organizational health is the single greatest … [Read more...]

A Popular Obsession

Our culture is obsessed with perfection: perfect babies, intelligent preschoolers, kindergartners who speak French, third-graders who know algebra, fifth-graders who make the all-star club team in soccer, eighth-graders who spend their Saturdays in SAT prep courses, and sophomores suffering sleep … [Read more...]

What Teen Daughters Wish Their Dads Knew

“My dad still thinks I’m a little girl, and I’m going to college next year! I wish he knew how that makes me feel insecure and not ready. I’m getting good grades, doing cheer, going to church and have a job. Why can’t he see me for a capable young woman rather than someone he needs to protect or … [Read more...]

What is Coaching?

I'm often asked, "What is coaching?"  I typically respond that my style of coaching is a hybrid between a counselor and a sports coach. I'm trained in educational psychology and have spent years studying how people grow. Here's what I'm discovering: People grow when they have someone encouraging … [Read more...]

You Are Stressin’ Me Out!

It turns out that we really can stress each other out, especially in families. Now we have evidence that supports 'empathic stress', especially if it involves someone we care about. The Journal Psychoneuroendocrinology (say that fast three times!) reported in April 2014 that watching a loved one … [Read more...]

Sick and Tired

“I have a 4.4 GPA. I study during lunch, I'm on the varsity volleyball team, attend youth group weekly and just went on a mission trip with my church; but my dad looks at me and frowns, like I’m lazy and goofing off when I take thirty minutes to video chat with my friends. He doesn’t understand that … [Read more...]