From Scattered to Successful

I recently finished writing a book with Stephen Arterburn: Understanding and Loving a Person With ADD. It will be out this fall. I'm excited about the book because it comes out of years of coaching people with ADD on moving from scattered to successful. Recently, I did a three session class for … [Read more...]

No Bullying Month

"I used to get A's and B's, but after those kids teased me and called me names, I started getting D's. They got into my head. I don't even like them. Actually, I don't even know them, so why should I care what they say or think?" asked thirteen year-old Noah. "I used to walk on campus, be happy to … [Read more...]

Less Than Perfect

"We just want her to work up to her potential. She's a gifted student and in honors and AP classes, but she seems to have lost her drive. Seems the more we talk with her, the less she does," said the forty-something dad wearing a crisp, professionally-starched dress shirt and shiny, polished Italian … [Read more...]

A Popular Obsession

Our culture is obsessed with perfection: perfect babies, intelligent preschoolers, kindergartners who speak French, third-graders who know algebra, fifth-graders who make the all-star club team in soccer, eighth-graders who spend their Saturdays in SAT prep courses, and sophomores suffering sleep … [Read more...]

What Teen Daughters Wish Their Dads Knew

“My dad still thinks I’m a little girl, and I’m going to college next year! I wish he knew how that makes me feel insecure and not ready. I’m getting good grades, doing cheer, going to church and have a job. Why can’t he see me for a capable young woman rather than someone he needs to protect or … [Read more...]

You Are Stressin’ Me Out!

It turns out that we really can stress each other out, especially in families. Now we have evidence that supports 'empathic stress', especially if it involves someone we care about. The Journal Psychoneuroendocrinology (say that fast three times!) reported in April 2014 that watching a loved one … [Read more...]

Sick and Tired

“I have a 4.4 GPA. I study during lunch, I'm on the varsity volleyball team, attend youth group weekly and just went on a mission trip with my church; but my dad looks at me and frowns, like I’m lazy and goofing off when I take thirty minutes to video chat with my friends. He doesn’t understand that … [Read more...]

Gen iY: Training Capable Digital Natives

Have you noticed that today's kids are a little different than their older brothers and sisters? I research and write about millennials - our current generation born from 1984 to 2002, and I noticed a shift around 1991. It's unique because it's a Continental Divide within a generation. The younger … [Read more...]

Handling Hormonal Hurricanes

Research studies in North America are reporting that puberty is coming to children earlier. The teen years have expanded! We are seeing hormonal changes begin in girls as young as eight years old, and in boys as young as nine. These changes occur before you may even notice signs of puberty, like … [Read more...]

Woodstock and Digital Natives

Forty years ago young people met in a muddy field at Woodstock to get away from their 'square' parents and be cool and groove to 'their' music. The generation gap was huge, with parents considered 'out of it' and not to be trusted. "Don't trust anyone over thirty," was the mantra of the era for … [Read more...]