Happy Kids?

I always twitch a little when I hear a parent say, “All I want for my child is for him to be happy.” I think I react because I’m not sure if ‘happy’ is coming from a place of positivity and health, or from a darker place of fear and a frantic lifestyle. “I have two children, and all I want for … [Read more...]

Healthy Families – Healthy Businesses

Families, like businesses have a system and a culture. Some look attractive, even successful, but if you look deeper, they actually may be unhealthy. Your family and your work are the two most important organizations in your life. Are yours' healthy? Organizational health is the single greatest … [Read more...]

Dealing With Back to School Stress

I'm starting to see all the back-to-school commercials, ads and hear the din of all the activities firing up, like NASCAR engines. School can feel like a race. "Why can't it be summer all year?" Students and parents are trying to catch their breath before the gun goes off and all the frantic … [Read more...]

A Popular Obsession

Our culture is obsessed with perfection: perfect babies, intelligent preschoolers, kindergartners who speak French, third-graders who know algebra, fifth-graders who make the all-star club team in soccer, eighth-graders who spend their Saturdays in SAT prep courses, and sophomores suffering sleep … [Read more...]

What is Coaching?

I'm often asked, "What is coaching?"  I typically respond that my style of coaching is a hybrid between a counselor and a sports coach. I'm trained in educational psychology and have spent years studying how people grow. Here's what I'm discovering: People grow when they have someone encouraging … [Read more...]

You Are Stressin’ Me Out!

It turns out that we really can stress each other out, especially in families. Now we have evidence that supports 'empathic stress', especially if it involves someone we care about. The Journal Psychoneuroendocrinology (say that fast three times!) reported in April 2014 that watching a loved one … [Read more...]

Serenity Broken

Recently we had some houseguests from Australia. After a healthy breakfast, we enjoyed coffee and conversation before they left to return to Melbourne. It was a calm morning - sunny, serene and comfortable. The kids laughed and played Wii Sports. The rental car was packed to the brim. As adults, we … [Read more...]

Simple Solutions for Fast Lane Families

Why are we so crazy busy? Because we don't want to be the loser parent who doesn't have her child signed up for the uber cool enrichment activity determined by the Parental Peer Pressure Posse. So we sign him up. Even if he doesn't like it. Then we wind up running him and his sister all over town … [Read more...]

Sick and Tired

“I have a 4.4 GPA. I study during lunch, I'm on the varsity volleyball team, attend youth group weekly and just went on a mission trip with my church; but my dad looks at me and frowns, like I’m lazy and goofing off when I take thirty minutes to video chat with my friends. He doesn’t understand that … [Read more...]