What Teen Daughters Wish Their Dads Knew

“My dad still thinks I’m a little girl, and I’m going to college next year! I wish he knew how that makes me feel insecure and not ready. I’m getting good grades, doing cheer, going to church and have a job. Why can’t he see me for a capable young woman rather than someone he needs to protect or … [Read more...]

What is Coaching?

I'm often asked, "What is coaching?"  I typically respond that my style of coaching is a hybrid between a counselor and a sports coach. I'm trained in educational psychology and have spent years studying how people grow. Here's what I'm discovering: People grow when they have someone encouraging … [Read more...]

You Are Stressin’ Me Out!

It turns out that we really can stress each other out, especially in families. Now we have evidence that supports 'empathic stress', especially if it involves someone we care about. The Journal Psychoneuroendocrinology (say that fast three times!) reported in April 2014 that watching a loved one … [Read more...]

Serenity Broken

Recently we had some houseguests from Australia. After a healthy breakfast, we enjoyed coffee and conversation before they left to return to Melbourne. It was a calm morning - sunny, serene and comfortable. The kids laughed and played Wii Sports. The rental car was packed to the brim. As adults, we … [Read more...]

Live Happy

Healthy families choose happiness. Small daily habits compound over time and generate happiness, meaning and contentment in families. Regardless of challenges, families can be strong. Any kind of family: single parent family, step families, two-parent families, and families with grandparents serving … [Read more...]

Simple Solutions for Fast Lane Families

Why are we so crazy busy? Because we don't want to be the loser parent who doesn't have her child signed up for the uber cool enrichment activity determined by the Parental Peer Pressure Posse. So we sign him up. Even if he doesn't like it. Then we wind up running him and his sister all over town … [Read more...]

Sick and Tired

“I have a 4.4 GPA. I study during lunch, I'm on the varsity volleyball team, attend youth group weekly and just went on a mission trip with my church; but my dad looks at me and frowns, like I’m lazy and goofing off when I take thirty minutes to video chat with my friends. He doesn’t understand that … [Read more...]

The Strategic Parent – Becoming a Family of High Achievement

Some high performance children and teens drive themselves (and their parents) crazy trying to achieve their idealized version of success. Their obsession with perfection causes them to feel that anything less than perfect is a failure, and the only way to get attention is to be perfect. In this … [Read more...]

When You Can’t Call Super Nanny

"I don't want the government to give me health care, I want them to give me the Super Nanny!" says comedian Tim Hawkins  www.TimHawkins.net Wouldn't that be great? When the kids are whiny; Jo Frost shows up and tells them, "You have been very naughty. Go sit on the naughty stool. Straightaway!" … [Read more...]

Top Ten Ways To Frustrate Your Kids

Barbara called me on her cell phone, "I want my son to see you as soon as possible. How soon can you get him in?" "When is he free?" I asked. "Well, let's see . . .he has soccer at three,  guitar lessons at five; a tutor after dinner; youth group on Wednesdays - wait, I have another call - hang … [Read more...]